When Sex is No Longer an Option


I got this picture from a friend of mine’s Facebook page. I laughed so hard when I saw it because I can see the reality of it. Though it is a humorous way to indicate supporting each other in old age, there is really more to it than that. The realities of this picture are hard hitting when you think about it.

Sex doesn’t last forever. People who base their relationships on a great sex life are in for a rude awakening. There does come a time when perky boobs and a hard penis stop being possible. Age has a way of taking it’s toll on us all. There comes a time when even the strongest relationships will be tried when sex is no longer possible or as often as it once was.

So what then? What do we do when we no longer can enjoy a great sex life with our partners? Have you talked about it with your partner? I have. Dwayne and I discuss everything. The good thing about Dwayne and I, is we don’t rely on our sex life. We rely on the fact that we are best friends, that we talk about everything and can enjoy being together just cuddling on the couch or going for walks holding hands.  We enjoy simple things together like cooking, or having coffee. We enjoy being in the same room together, dreaming together, planning. Sex is a perk in our relationship, but it isn’t our relationship. Our relationship is so much more than that.

It is very important that you create a foundation beyond the sex for your relationship to be built on. Find your personal strengths together so that you can have the support you need in old age. As funny as this picture is, it is true on so many levels. Sex isn’t always going to be an option in every relationship, especially those who truly want to be together until “death do us part”. To help reach that point, you need to be able to accept each other and love each other and be there for each other, even when sex is no longer a viable option.

Love should be the reason for sex, not sex is the reason for love. I know people won’t agree with me, but when sex is not possible any longer, if love wasn’t there first, what will be there when sex isn’t? What works for one person, doesn’t necessarily work for another. It is very important that you and your partner find what works for you.

Enjoy your sex life, but make sure that you have a solid foundation outside of that to hold onto when sex is no longer possible. Be willing to support your partner and have them support you beyond the sex and into what it is to have a true relationship.  

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